5 Ways to Reconnect With Yourself Postpartum
Have you ever found yourself wondering, "Who even am I anymore?" After having a baby, it can feel like you've lost touch with the person you were before. The truth is, you’re still in there—you’ve just been through a huge transformation. Motherhood has a way of shifting everything, and it’s easy to feel like parts of you have gotten lost along the way. But here’s the good news: you can reconnect with yourself, and you deserve it.
What You Will Learn in This Blog Post:
Simple steps to reconnect with who you are outside of motherhood
How to blend your new role as a mom with the person you were before
Practical tips to help you carve out time for yourself amidst the chaos
In this post, I’m sharing five ways to help you rediscover yourself after having a baby. These are practical, manageable steps that don’t require hours of time (because, let’s be real, who has that with a newborn?). Let’s focus on helping you feel more like you while embracing your new identity as a mom.
1. Create Small Moments of "You Time"
I know, I know—finding time for yourself feels impossible right now. But here’s the thing: it doesn’t have to be a grand gesture. Start with small pockets of time. Maybe it’s 10 minutes in the morning to sip your coffee in peace, or a quick walk around the block while the baby naps. These little moments can help you reconnect with yourself without feeling like you’re neglecting your baby. You deserve space to breathe, even if it’s just for a few minutes.
Action step: Set a timer for 10 minutes and do something you enjoy—reading a few pages of a book, listening to your favorite podcast, or even just sitting in silence.
2. Reconnect With Old Hobbies (Or Find New Ones)
Remember those things you loved doing before you became a mom? Whether it was painting, writing, or even just binge-watching your favorite TV show—those hobbies are still part of you. If old hobbies don’t fit into your new routine, consider exploring new ones that excite you. It’s not about being the “old you” again; it’s about merging who you were with the incredible person you’re becoming.
Action step: Write down one hobby you miss and one you’d like to try. Start with just one afternoon a week or even 20 minutes a day to dedicate to it.
3. Journal About Your Postpartum Journey
Writing down your thoughts and feelings can be a powerful way to process this new chapter of life. Journaling doesn’t need to be another task on your to-do list—it can be as simple as jotting down what you’re feeling in the moment. Reflect on how motherhood has changed you, the things you miss, and the new joys you’ve found. By giving those feelings space, you can start to reconnect with the parts of yourself that feel a little lost right now.
Action step: Grab a notebook and spend 5 minutes writing about one thing you’re grateful for today, and one challenge you're working through.
4. Lean Into Your Support System
You don’t have to do this alone. Talk to your partner, a close friend, or even a postpartum support group about how you’re feeling. Sometimes, just verbalizing your struggles helps you feel more connected to yourself and less isolated. Other moms get it, and having someone there to listen without judgment can be a game-changer. You deserve to feel supported in this journey.
Action step: Reach out to one person you trust and tell them how you’re feeling. Let them know if you just need a listening ear or some extra help this week.
5. Give Yourself Permission to Evolve
You’re not supposed to be exactly the same person you were before. Motherhood changes you in profound ways, but that doesn’t mean you’ve lost yourself. It means you’re evolving, growing, and learning more about who you are. Instead of trying to get “back” to who you were, lean into the new version of yourself. There’s room for both—the woman you were before and the mother you’re becoming.
Action step: Write down one thing you love about the person you are now, and one thing you want to nurture moving forward.
You Deserve This!
Reconnecting with yourself doesn’t have to be overwhelming or take away from your time with your baby. It’s about carving out small, intentional moments to remind yourself that you matter, too. These simple steps can help you blend the person you were with the incredible mom you’ve become. You’re not lost—you’re evolving. And trust me, you’re doing an amazing job.
Take the next step: Download my free guide, 5 Ways to Avoid Losing Yourself Postpartum, for even more practical tips to help you thrive during this season. Let’s make sure you’re not just surviving but truly taking care of you.
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